The Secret Life of a High End Mistress

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A Lonely Man’s Craving – I am not what people assume I should be. I do not have a pimp, I do not work for anyone except myself and I am not on drugs. I am a middle aged, college educated woman 

I am not forced to work as a sex worker and for the record we prefer to be referred to as “providers”. I have so many common denominators with society that it shocks people when I tell them what I do for a living. I am a freak and I love to have sex with men. 

 

It hit me in a place pretty close to guilt 

I watched a show today that featured a family from the other side of the world. I could not understand their language, but I knew right away the nature of the relationship between the two females. It was a mother and daughter going in circles about the daughter’s loud music. 

 

How did I know that? Well, I have a teen who maintains her music on “call the police” level and I know how irritated I get. The body language I saw between this mother and her daughter looked very familiar. It hit me in a place pretty close to guilt. Originally I thought watching this program was a waste of time because I had nothing in common with the stars of the show. How mistaken was my assumption. 

 

She is forced to sell her body 

How many times have you seen a news break “special report” about the adult entertainment industry and immediately launched into your own concept of some cruel, greedy, outrageously dressed man slapping a seemingly innocent young girl around and making her work as a prostitute? You thought, OMG she is forced to sell her body, she must have a pimp, she is on drugs, her life is so pathetic and where are her parents? I will be the first to admit there are real life dramas exactly as I have described. 

 

I come from a different world. I am known as a high end provider 

 

 

I must also admit that I HATE pimps and I am a sex worker. We make people very nervous. A close friend who is very sex industry friendly told me why we make people nervous. We are not outlandishly obvious about what we do. We are well spoken, well liked, very friendly, dress conservatively, manage our health well, have children, friends and look like every day, normal women. This combination alone makes people very nervous. We are supposed to be ghetto, loud, ignorant, pimped, high on drugs and carry the demeanor of an uninformed adult. Nothing could be further from the truth. We are capable of instantly causing people to rethink their misgivings about exactly who is a verifiable, high end sex worker. 

 

There is a huge market for my services 

and I am mentally secure in my decision to put a for sale sign on my time. I conduct my business as a business, because it is a business. I do not engage in unsafe practices with my clients. I do not see just anyone. I don’t show up for an appointment looking like anything anyone ever expects. I am not the hot, blond girl who weighs 100lbs at 5’10. I am not the 20-year old waltzing through a hotel lobby with all my goods hanging out, drunk, loud and looking the role of a ho. Look very carefully at your surroundings the next time you are out and about. 

 

It is me sitting in the corner of a hotel bar 

with a jogging suit, a baseball cap, light make-up, sneakers. But oddly enough, my nails and smooth skin are flawless. I am ordering top shelf and my perfume is very expensive. I am the woman who valet parks the average vehicle. No one notices the man in the designer suit walking past the bar or that I walk out of the bar 10 minutes later. No one knows I am wearing La Perla lingerie underneath my jogging suit; that my hair stuffed under my baseball cap is cut and styled to perfection; that my make-up is professionally applied to make it look natural or my body which is toned to perfection. No one will notice as I slip out of this hotel in a few hours with a few thousand dollars. 

 

A few shocking things. This is what I do two days a week several times each day. OMG stop the presses: 

 

I am BLACK 

Not light-bright-damn-near white.  I am dark, co co brown. I am the secret mistress to hundreds of lonely men who have a co co obsession. I know they have a co co obsession, because they see all my co co friends. As my clients travel, they need their co co fix so my home girls and I all trade information about our clients. 

 

Contributing author for Geisha Diaries 

How to Increase Your Business in the Covid-19 Era

Why you should care

Professional models took a devastating blow when FOSTA-SESTA turned their industry upside down. In a knee jerk reaction, mass amounts of websites shut down. Models  scrambled to replace the .com domain suffixes of their websites with the overseas .ch suffix. They scrubbed their web content of industry-related buzz words and deleted scores of suggestive photos from their galleries. Many models went out of business, including notable advertising forums that served as lifelines to their patrons. Survivors were left scratching their heads, wondering how to stay afloat amid a barren landscape of advertising options. They realized that organic marketing was their only option. Many kicked themselves for not having laid the groundwork for what was now their only salvation in business – organic marketing. Survival of the fittest prevailed. Now, Covid-19 seems to have camped on the heels of FOSTA-SESTA to deliver yet another cruel blow to the livelihoods of ladies and gentlemen across all modeling avenues.

Even with the security of regular clients, models have taken huge losses this year, forced to survive on financial reserves or take civilian jobs – if they could find employment. Devastation has hit hardest those who have neither sown the seeds of marketing nor stashed away funds to safeguard themselves during these barren times. Now, we are experiencing a resurgence of the Corona Virus which could continue until a vaccine is released. How does one protect their health while reassuring clients that it is okay to connect without risking contagion?

Instill trust in your website viewers

While modeling will never die, it relies upon suppliers updating the methods in which new business is generated. Staying ahead of the times with progressive marketing tactics is the way the fittest will survive.

Covid-19 website popup

When a viewer enters your website, they do so with the desire of connecting on some level. However, in this age of uncertainty, he or she may be entering a dark hole of risk. What can be done to re-assure your viewer that their health is safe with you? Consider adding a popup to your website design that ensures your virus-free health status. By the way, if you need a new website, go here.

Don’t under estimate the value of a health certificate

New Covid-19 testing stations are popping up every day. CVS Pharmacy, health clinics and hospitals all offer virus testing and most are free. If you have tested negative for Covid-19, state this in your website popup. What’s more, your contact form might even require test results from your clients. This is a win-win solution and one that will be much appreciated by your new clients.

Ramp up your suitor guidelines

One of the purposes of a contact form is identifying if your potential client meets your guidelines. The CDC (Center for Disease Control) states that folks with underlying medical conditions can be at higher risk of contracting Covid-19. Consider adding these fields to your contact form:

  • What is your age?
  • Do you have any health conditions?
  • Have you displayed any of the following symptoms in the last 14 days (fever, coughing, flu, sore throat)?
  • Have you been tested for Covid-19? If yes, what were the results, my darling?

Some ladies may shy away from including such questions on their contact forms. On the other hand, clients may appreciate this socially responsible approach.

Write responsible content

Now, more than ever, clients want to feel confident about your stellar hygiene. What better way to instill this confidence than with content that addresses the current social climate? Naturally, social distancing does not apply on a date. So how can you ensure your client that he/she is safe in your presence? Content will always be king (or queen, as it were). Need a content makeover? Go here.

Accountable content counts

  • Feature that you offer hand sanitizers upon your date’s arrival.
  • Consider displaying clips of your private space (incall) that is disinfected on a regular basis.
  • Offer packaged, disposable toiletries for a client’s use in the bathroom.
  • State notification of your recent whereabouts (have you avoided crowed spaces such as churches, bars, large gatherings?).

While your content cannot and should not attempt to guarantee that you are Covid-19-free, offering these risk-conscious solutions can instill peace of mind resonating with trust and responsibility.

Get blogging!

Though business might be down on your booking schedule, you can be sure that potential clients continue to peruse the internet for visual satisfaction. Blogging is your communication portal in a world that is increasingly cautious about their health and reluctant to jeopardize their well-being.

Blogging can accomplish so many wonderful things for you and your business. For starters, regular blogging about smart topics will label you as an authority in the eyes of search engines and clients. There will always be looky-loos with no genuine intention of forming any sort of connection with you. But there are always those who look for signs of trust and safety before reaching out. This is the type of client targeted by blogging.

In the world of digital marketing, regular blogging can put your website ‘on the map’ of search results. When a viewer is searching for a provider with your characteristics, websites with relevant content rank higher. Even though that potential suitor may not have any intention of reading an escort blog, he/she may be led to your site simply because it displayed on page one of the search engine. If for no other reason, active blogging should be your go-to tool for digital marketing!

If you’re not a blogging person, or haven’t a clue what to write when you put pen to paper, go here to view our content packages.

Blog about social awareness

In these perilous times, no one wants to contract a virus resulting from the whim of a date. Clients are much more careful these days about who they contact. You can be sure that the model who blogs about social awareness will be far more appealing than the one who does not. Blogging demonstrates her interest in staying informed. It also implies a sense of responsibility which her potential clients will appreciate.

Blog about diet and fitness

As a companion, When was the last time you had a CBC from your health care provider? That’s a ‘complete blood count’ and part of a physical examination. The stronger your health, the more likely you are to resist contracting the virus or a mild case if you are exposed. And if the results of your CBC are favorable, boast away!

Is your diet health conscious? Are you vegetarian or vegan? Do you maintain an organic diet? Are you physically fit with a normal BMI (body mass index)? Any of these lifestyle choices might be found encouraging by the potential suitor exercising precautions before making his way to your contact form.

Offer Zoom dates

If a person’s safest partner is himself or herself, then Zoom is your answer. Put your powerful intimacy skills to work by offering a personable Zoom date. Make sure that you look amazing and that your background is appealing.

Social media remains your portal to new connections

Armed with your newly updated website design, responsible content and informed blog, you have the arsenal necessary to showcase yourself all over social media. Every post should include a back link to your website, citing the subject about which you are posting. For example: you may link back to a blog article that you wrote with a post that mentions a new detox smoothie you discovered and its immune boosting properties. Or perhaps you participate in a virtual power yoga class and have blogged about it. Did you snap a selfie for the article? Include the selfie in your social media post (making sure that you look your best in yoga gear!) and link back to the article. You should certainly post about the new Zoom date that you’re offering with a backlink to your website. Note: always hashtag your physical characteristics.

Not every potential client is going to click on your blog link or even view your post for that matter. But remember that social media comes with powerful search engine optimization. Regular posting could rank you at the top of the Google page, even above your website! This is a very effective tool when potential clients are surfing the web for models that match your physical description.

Make it happen!

During these dubious times, it is imperative to find time in your daily schedule to market yourself. “I don’t have the time’ or “I don’t know how to market myself’ are not excuses. As a professional model, marketing is essential! For those who are unsure how to go about manifesting any marketing tactics or simply need advice, we offer consulting packages as pathways to your success.

We welcome questions! Go here to send us a note and set up a time for a free 10-minute chat.